Been listening to Jack Zufelt’s The Conquering Force Within series lately… Really good stuff. I highly recommend it.
One of the main points Jack makes is that you only do what is a Core Desire and then only when it is at 90-100 on a scale of 0-100.
The Core Desires that Jack talks about can also be called Values and the goals that stem from them. No goal that is not tied to your values and expressed in some way in your vision will ever really be achieved in a significant way.
Values drive us create that ultimate (until we get there and do another) vision of our lives. That vision drives us to set and achieve goals that get us there. Your Vision is expressed as your Core Desires given form and acted upon.
My son is very competitive. He plays chess at his school and has quickly moved up from a novice to a fairly high rank for a first year player. He HATES to lose. He sees himself winning each match, and when he doesn’t… Wow, you can really tell how upset he is. He gets invested in winning that chess match. He also is into the rankings. He and another boy on the team are close in skill and ranking. The other one is a year ahead of my son, but they both keep trying to outdo each other.
This is a healthy competition. They each are dedicated to winning and beating each other, but when they aren’t playing each other, they’re 100% behind the other. For them competition and winning is a 100.
If this wasn’t a 100… instead perhaps a 70… will he find the time each week to go to practice and work on chess at home? Maybe some weeks. Maybe even a few weeks in a row. Eventually the novelty wears off and it stops.
Because it gets to the point where it’s not important enough! It was a goal and part of your vision, but it WAS NOT IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO ACT ON IT CONSISTENTLY! When that happens, no amount of planning and motivation will achieve that goal.
Did you get that?
Just as I teach you to prioritize your tasks, and goals in life, you must also prioritize your values and your vision. You must ask yourself, and be TOTALLY HONEST, where each thing ranks on that scale.
If it isn’t at least a 90, DO NOT INCLUDE IT IN YOUR VISION!