On your success journey, you will need to change your old, limiting beliefs into new, empowering beliefs, so let’s go over some things you can do to reinforce those new beliefs, because there WILL be times when your beliefs are tested and you fall back into the old ones.
A great technique is visualizations. Visualization has been tested and retested in the real world as a vital part of training and improvement. Top athletes visualize in their mind every move they make, every shot, swing, putt, lay-up, pitch and sprint. Studies have shown that it can be just as effective as the actual doing. It’s all in how well you can visualize it.
To visualize, you need to think about the belief. What does the new belief do to you? Are you better, faster, slimmer, more outgoing, on-time, etc.? What effect will this belief have on you and those you interact with? Are you more confident? More loving? Picture your typical day without this belief. EXPERIENCE it.
Experience the smells, tastes, touches, sounds and sights. You need to be IN the visualization. Now do the same for the new, positive belief. EXPERIENCE it! What are the differences? How do you feel? What do you do differently? Play the new scene over and over each day and when you slip.
This is to get you into the BEing part of belief. Many of you have heard of the phrase Be, Do, Have. What it means is that you must BE the person who will DO the things that will get you what you want to HAVE. Some will tell you that you can DO things to cause your BElief.
I used to think that, but I think it just reinforces a fledgling BElief. DOing does not create belief. What do you think would happen if you take two people, one who believes he will succeed and one who believes he will fail, and have them do exactly the same actions.
The DO is the same. The BE is different. If DOing is what creates (rather than reinforcing) the BElief, the results should be the same. I would bet the first person will succeed and the second will fail based solely on the BEliefs held at the time of the DOing.
Taking actions will not instill the new beliefs but they WILL be reinforced. That is the thing we want. So, go back to the visualizations you did. What are the things you did in the old picture that are replaced in the new picture? What are they replaced with? If you are unsure, what COULD they be replaced with? If you are not sure still, let’s play.
Sure. Pretend for a moment that we already have the new beliefs and are going to act as if we do. Just pretend. Make it up. Have fun. Let loose. You see, when you pretend you immerse yourself into the scenario. Remember playing as a kid? When you were the cowboy or the princess or the race car driver or doctor, didn’t you see, act and believe it? You didn’t listen to the rational part of you that said there’s no horse under you. You RODE that bucking bronco! That is what I want you to do here. Ride that bronco and tame it.
How would you: Walk? Talk? Sit? Stand? Eat? Dress? Drive? Play with your kids? Relate to your spouse? Spend your free time? Tip the waitress? Make friends? Work? Relax?
So do it that way now. Try it and see if your beliefs and actions start to change. See if your BEliefs feed your actions into new DOings that reinforce the BEliefs. It’s a cycle that should keep going and going.